Passion is a word that we see get used constantly when it comes to people talking about work. It’s a word that we are encouraged to feel but in no way are we allowed to say it in a job interview, because it’s a tell tale sign that you’ve just been reading up on “answers to job interview questions”, instead of being genuinely interested in the job or company.

Fuel your passion light up sign
Fuel your passion light up sign
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Passion. In 2021 when we have an abundance of different hobbies, activities, things to do, and depending on where you live (right now) places to go, how is it people are…


Solo Travel — Man standing atop a hill overlooking the landscape (https://unsplash.com/@capturethemoment)
Solo Travel — Man standing atop a hill overlooking the landscape (https://unsplash.com/@capturethemoment)
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Back when the world was normal, which feels like a world away. Travelling was something that we all took for granted, we saw it as something that was going to be as easy as packing up our stuff and booking that next flight out of town.

Whilst we can’t do that right now, there are a number of ways we can still escape. Drive to your favourite village or town outside of your city, or visa versa if you live in the small towns. Sometimes an escape will break us out of the mundane realities that we live in. …


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Girl in sun (https://unsplash.com/@aiony)
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The past few years have been an incredibly long and hard journey for me and my skin. I hate to be the person who focuses so much on my external appearance, but it’s difficult to not focus on every detail of your face when you look at it so often. Comparing every detail of our skin to that of the photoshopped, blurred, colorised photos of people on the internet.

As time has gone by I have been on a journey to learn to accept it, turning it into a healing process, despite it being a long and tumultuous journey.

This…


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Two female friends hugging each other (https://unsplash.com/@holliver)
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It’s a funny time, when men put women down for saying they are not like other girls.

I agree, it’s not cute that a women that is putting down other women for being a “girly”, or liking typically “girly” activities or “girly” objects. When women tell a man they are different to other girls because they aren’t impressed by flowers, a teddy bear etc.

This does not in any way mean a man can turn around and put the women who is saying that down. I’m sorry, but there is enough expectations from men, on women that is harmful, and…


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Coming out of a long and committed relationship is difficult. It’s no different to from closing any chapter in our life. For me, closing a chapter of a relationship was one of the most difficult chapters to close. Another difficult chapter was also a relationship I never quite had.

During my younger years, I had spent a lot of time wondering what could have been with another person. When we met it was like a light lit up inside of me, I’d never quite felt so wanted, and so free to be myself ever before. The difficulty was.. I also…


Women looking over the horizon into sunrise (https://unsplash.com/@dingzeyuli)
Women looking over the horizon into sunrise (https://unsplash.com/@dingzeyuli)
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If you’ve stumbled upon this article about type nine enneagram, you might already know about enneagrams, or you yourself are a 9.

Enneagram test is a “system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions.” — truity.com

You can take your own here: https://www.truity.com/enneagram/what-is-enneagram

As a sociologist student I had always found it fascinating how we interpret the world, and how our minds and social interactions and learned behaviours differentiate us. …


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Woman in field (https://unsplash.com/@olianayda)
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There have been many times in my life where I’ve considered my position in life and those around me. I looked round in classrooms, in libraries, and wondered whether I should be working as hard as those people next to me, or whether I should be as smart as those fellow classmates standing at the front of the classroom.

Many times I’ve wondered whether I’ve as good as those people, as smart, as hard working, as resilient as those people. …


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Silhouette of a group of people sat together (https://unsplash.com/@papaioannou_kostas)
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Inherently I am a shy person, it’s not something that was seen as a positive trait growing up. I was always compared to my younger sister, loud proud and funny, and I was none of those things. I would ask her if she would order my food for me, even McDonalds. I would ask her if she could come with me to restroom, come with me to order a cinema ticket. I was shy, in interactions with friends, family, strangers. If there were a large group of people (more than 4–5 people) I would instantly freeze, even if I knew…


Person overlooking lake (https://unsplash.com/@umit)
Person overlooking lake (https://unsplash.com/@umit)
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A breakdown in any type of relationship is difficult at any stage of your life. The breakdown can leave you emotionally and physically exhausted, but the magical part of healing is that it always comes, and in time it heals almost anything. Whether you’ve healed or not, those emotional rollercoasters aren’t wasted time. It’ll provide you a chance to reflect on yourself and your interactions with people, and how you react to actions of other people.

Take a look at how you react to what others say to you

Being in a close intimate friendship/relationship with anybody can give you an insight into how you react to how others speak to you. …


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Individual staring at the sunset https://unsplash.com/@khouser01
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It certainly left me with questions about myself. Your self worth is questioned when a person destroys you. Each person’s experience of brokenness will differ. You can be broken by a number of people — anybody who you trust can break that. For me, it was a partner. Though, it really doesn’t matter who it is. The feeling is all the same, the questions are all the same.

Growing up, nobody tells you that your self-worth shouldn’t depend on other people’s opinions of you. As a child we’re so dependent on other people, our parents, our friends, our grandparents, that…

Julie He

Personal Development Enthusiast. Sociologist.

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